Let’s cum Together! The importance of health sexual discussions

BY SIMONE J. SMITH

• What is good sex?
• How do you describe your idea of good sex, and how do you express it?
• Have you ever considered BDSM? If you have no idea what that is, it is okay.
• Did you know that May is National Masturbation Month?

Are you cringing right now? I want you as a reader to know that this article is meant to cause some discomfort, but for good reason.

Sex is everywhere. It is in magazines, provocatively emanated in fashion, in TV advertising, in popular Netlix series, music and movies. Sex is magically embedded in our pop culture; you would think there would be more open discussions about it. We should be more relaxed and comfortable with it, but oddly, the opposite is true. Many people find it difficult to talk about sex. For some, it can be an awkward topic, and can raise feelings of shame, inadequacy, and embarrassment.

Unfortunately, these feelings of shame, inadequacy, and embarrassment have stifled us as a community. There is a lack of sex education, which means that most of us do not even have basic information about something that is a MAJOR part of our life. It is not surprising given all the negative messages that most of us received about sex when we were young. Another concern is the trauma that is associated with sex; child molestation, rape, sexual harassment, it is no wonder that sex remains taboo, and is kept behind closed doors.

SEX is unacceptable conversation in our society, but to be silent about sex keeps us ignorant. A great example is an article I found in The Journal of Sex Research, Vol. 27. A group of researches did research on African women and AIDS prevention, and one thing they found was that traditional sexual roles permit men to have sexual freedom, but censure women for the same activities. This is still operating in the African community. They also found that a major problem in relationships is the lack of communication about sexual practices.

I thought that this was a good time to introduce the topic of SEX. I figured I would turn to an expert, who could speak on it in a way that we all can relate to. I would like to introduce you to Sex Therapist Machal Hunt, and his Podcast series “Let’s cum together,” with the Sex Doc.

“Don’t worry about what people are doing out there, you just take care of yourself.”

Accredited Relationship Counsellor and Psychosexual Therapist out of Atlanta, Georgia, Machal Hunt was incredibly open with me when we had our discussion about his new podcast. Originally from London, England, Machal has proved himself as the person to go to with everything SEX. He has been seen on FOX News, SkyTV, News One, and Bravo. Our short, but insightful dialogue shed on brand new light on this taboo topic.

“Sex is a valuable topic,” Machal begins. “I think that it is important for people to normalize sex. Everyone is doing it, but no one talks about it. I grew up in a very liberal family. I was always very curious about sex. I am lucky to have had a space where I could talk about it safely. I started this podcast because I wanted to offer a safe space for others.”

“Why a podcast?” I questioned. “I always wanted to start a podcast, but it looked very burdensome. I am not very technical, so I kept pushing it off. My friend introduced me to anchor.fm and told me how easy it was. I decided to try it, and Corona presented a perfect time to do it.”

More than anything, Machal wants sex to come out of the shadows. “We are all here because of sex, except for that 1% that come from surrogacy. There has been an overwhelming positive reaction to the show. People are happy to have this outlet.”

Machal has found a way to present sex in a bite-sized consumable way. So far, he has four episodes, each 17 – 20 minutes long. After listening to each episode, I see how talking about sex is the only way to have better sex. We must educate ourselves more, and thankfully “Let’s cum Together,” is another way in which we can do so. You can listen to it on Anchor.FM, or Spotify. Machal Hunt can be found on Instagram: @machmach80, or @relationshipandsexdoc

Resources
Black Women and AIDS Prevention: A View Towards Understanding the Gender Rules

Author(s): Mindy Thompson Fullilove, Robert E. Fullilove, III, Katherine Haynes and Shirley Gross

Source: The Journal of Sex Research, Vol. 27, No. 1, Feminist Perspectives on Sexuality. Part 1 (February 1990), pp. 47-64

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URL: https://www.jstor.org/stable/3812882 Accessed: 28-08-2018 17:13 UTC